Tuesday, April 21, 2015

"Goodbye"

Dear Mother,
It's already been two weeks since you left us for your Heavenly home.  You would be proud of me, Mom, I only cried twice today.  The rain has finally stopped and we had a gorgeous sunny day.  I was even able to set out a beautiful pink azalea that a friend of ours from church gave me, in memory of you.  I remember when we built our house here, you cut a piece off of your beautiful fuchsia azalea over on Skyuka road and walked all the way down the bank to the creek, to put a rock on top of it until a root grew.  I still have it and it's blooming now.  I can't believe you were my age and climbed up and down that huge bank just to check on that root.  You must have loved me a lot.  I even placed some flowers on your grave last week.  You know I detest graves.  Sue was always good to take care of everybody's grave and to visit regular.  I just never wanted to do that.  But I'm going to try to do better for you.   I believe you would have loved your "homegoing" service.  We have had so many to compliment on  how beautiful it was. I try not to think about the last 7 years of your life, Mom, just all the years before, when you were you.  I know now that you are complete.  There will never be a time when you're alone or confused, for you have all the answers now.  I just want to tell you how much I loved you.  I can't imagine a better mother than you.  Tell Daddy, Yates and Doris "hello" and I will see you all again one day, on that beautiful shore. ---Jean

My beautiful mother, Margie W. Williams, 86, had her final "homegoing" on April 8, 2015.  What a relief it was to see her draw that final breath.  Her struggles had finally ended.  Mother developed double pneumonia from aspiration, several weeks prior to her passing.  Spending a few weeks in the hospital, complications were still present.  Her family was by her side constantly, up until her last breath.  I will miss her and all the calamities that Dementia brought our way.  But we are so thankful and blessed to have been a part of this woman's life, even through the "crazy" years.  My thoughts and prayers will forever be with those of you who have typed in, searching for information or stories, concerning dementia and brought you to this blog. I say goodbye today, not only to mom, but to you.  May God Bless!

2 comments:

  1. Jean,
    I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I've also lost family members to this disease. I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog over the past year as a healthcare professional myself (RN). I stumbled upon it when got more focused on the problems that seniors have with mobility and injuries, and I was immediately hooked by your focus on Dementia because my grandfather has Dementia. I really enjoyed your openness to share your story and help bring strength to others going through the same situation.

    I currently have a project set to launch on Kickstarter called the step2rest (www.step2rest.com ) that will launch next month. As a nurse, now focused on helping keeping the senior safe in their home, I thought I might share it with you. Would you be interested in doing a interview/guest entry/review on your blog? My hope is that it would add value to your audience, especially since it’s in line with helping keep seniors in their home.
    If you'd prefer to review the final copy of the product, I would be happy to send you additional information or perform a demo with you privately. Thanks for your time, and I look forward to future entries about the problems seniors face in their home.

    Vince Baiera R.N., BSN
    330-418-0113
    vince.baiera@gmail.com

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  2. Let me briefly tell you that there are multiple forms of dementia - alzheimer’s disease being the most common one that accounts for 40 to 75% of dementia cases and is the sixth leading cause of death in United States. Additionally, dementia and its types have common signs with some variations. Let’s start with the most common signs of dementia most commonly seen in patients at the early stages of the disease. They start experiencing subtle memory loss, mood instability such as immediate occurrences of maniac (laugh) and depression (sadness) episodes, and have trouble with listening and explaining things to other people, communicational obstructions to be exact. They also segregate their selves from social gatherings and unions, face difficulty in performing daily chores and also experience muscle impairment. Additionally, some people fail to converse with other people because they fail to keep up the pace and comparatively take longer to process the coming words and repeat the same question over and over again. Most of the cases showed that, dementia patients start segregating their selves and start living alone because they could not keep up with the lives of normal people. They just are not up for the adaptation to change. In one of the form of dementia, which is Lewy Body dementia, probable signs appear to be sleeplessness. Patients experience insomnia which leads to mood swings. It has been seen that they fail to keep tracks of roads and lose their tracking skills as well. In case of Alzheimer’s, a patient the most common signs are memory loss and forgetfulness. In some cases, it has been observed that people with Alzheimer’s segregate their selves from others. Additionally, they experience complete memory loss and trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships, lack the judgement skill and a complete withdrawal from work or social activities. One most commonly observed is the forgetfulness and inability to retrace steps. There is another type of dementia called Parkinson’s characterized as uncontrollable movement of body parts such a shaking limbs and fingers. It has been observed that patients experience writing and speech changes, their ability to respond fails badly and they lose posture and balance. One of the common sign is bradykinesia characterized as slow body movement. One thing to keep in mind before labelling someone as a dementia patient is that forgetfulness and memory loss do no really mean a person has dementia because memory loss and forgetfulness are a normal parts of aging. But if any severity has been observed in these signs, a patient definitely requires a professional advice and consultation. There is no cookie approach to cure dementia but if you observe such changings or signs in your loved ones do not take it for granted before it gets too late.
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